Women are never disarmed by compliments. Men always are. That is the difference between the sexes. - Oscar Wilde
25 Comments Published by Carrie M on Friday, June 29, 2007 at 2:53 AM.
I was clicking around Yahoo the other day and came across an interesting sounding article: 10 Compliments That Wow a Man. Okay, you've got my attention. I'd like to find out something to wow a man. Of course, Arjewtino has already given his take on some tried and true pick up lines for guys, but let's scroll through this new list (I omitted one because, frankly, it wasn't that funny), shall we?
Just for fun, I'd like to point out that the author, David Zinczenko, is the author of "The Abs Diet," and the new book "Men, Love & Sex: The Complete User's Guide for Women." I don't know about you guys, but I can't think of a better pairing of two subjects than that.
And the worst part of this article? The stepford women who commented. Take for example:
-"This is great advice for any woman. I already tell my husband these things all the time and he loves hearing it."
- "Great advice. I told my husband this everyday and he loves hearing it. My husband is the best of the best."
- "I compliment my fiancee all the time. However, I NEVER would have dreamed of mentioning his feet. I will definitely try it tonight, tho. Wish me luck!"
- "David, I totally agree with you men and woman both need to hear things said to them to help them feel important in a relationship. I used to tell my ex these all the time and even though he was lazy and an alcoholic I tried to make him feel important."
- "That is nice to read coz i have been whispering some of these words to my Man"
- "i think from a mans prosepective, that this 10 things are just the ticket a man needs at the end of the day."
- "Ladies tell your men you want them or show them! Telling him his arms look bigger is also true. -My husband is all the time making me touch his "GUNS". This is a good article."
- "I actually feel reassured. I do more than half of those suggestions on a regular basis. A couple areas I could work, though, and I will. Thanks for the tips! I'm sure my husband will be appreciative."
And I could go on. There are over 2200 comments as of 10 pm Thursday night. So we've learned that these work, ladies! Write these down on your hand, have a crib sheet, commit them to memory and you too will be happier than you've ever dreamed!
Watch out, boys. I'm on the prowl this weekend and I'm armed with some amazing one liners. You will be putty in my hands. Girls, just stay home. Or stand back and be amazed by my prowess.
Just for fun, I'd like to point out that the author, David Zinczenko, is the author of "The Abs Diet," and the new book "Men, Love & Sex: The Complete User's Guide for Women." I don't know about you guys, but I can't think of a better pairing of two subjects than that.
"Your arms are definitely looking bigger." Men can be just as paranoid about the way their bodies look as women can be.I think I might use this at the bar Friday night as a guy is lifting his beer.
Honey, if you're not making me laugh in the first place, I'm not complimenting shit."Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha." Because men value their sense of humor as one of their most important qualities, a hearty, genuine laugh is as flattering as it gets.
"Wow." Doesn't matter whether it comes as he's getting undressed or after you've finished having sex, this short, sweet word (best done in a whisper) may just be the ultimate ego-stroke.Once again, I think this is a good one for the bar. When he's ordering his Miller Lite. So. Hott.
"You the man." Guys hear this all the time. From other guys. They hear it at work, on the golf course, and when one dude from the group buys the beer. But if it comes from a woman -- no matter the context -- the message is that, hey, we're buddies, too. Which is actually pretty darn sexy.I can safely say I've never heard a man say this to another man when they buy a round. Oh wait, yes I did. In 1995 on an episode of Blossom, followed by WHOA! I wonder if I should accompany this with a request to gimme five! Up high! Down low? Too slow! Goddamn, I'm so golden.
"The kids just adore you." More than 50 percent of men say that their families -- more so than work and salary -- are what defines them most as men. So when a woman affirms that he's a familial hero, it's a compliment that stretches way beyond anything you could ever say about his haircut.So wait..."nice haircut" is NOT a fulfilling compliment? Check. Okay. The kids adore you...but whose kids? My aunt's kids who he's never met? No...hmmm...oh, I've got it. How about the children that I envision having with HIM? Like "I can tell that not only will our children be beautiful, but they will adore you." Is that too much?
"Cute feet." Typically, it doesn't matter much to men if women like a part of their body that they don't control, like their eyes, jawline, or body hair.Really? Well, I'll tell you. I don't have control over my breasts but when a guy I like is impressed with my rack? I'm okay with that.
Tell a guy he has good feet, and somehow he takes it as a double-bagger compliment -- that you not only like his genetics, but also that you appreciate he can keep himself better groomed than the rest of the gnarly-nailed heathens out there.I see a couple of problems with that. 1, I can better imagine myself flashing a man to win his approval than complimenting him on his feet. 2, I want to date a STRAIGHT man. Just a preference.
"Meow." The stats show that 61 percent of men think their partners aren't sexually adventurous enough. While a feline one-liner doesn't automatically qualify as adventurous, it does show a bit of inhibition, and the message is one he likes to hear: That perhaps he's brought a little bit of the animal out of you.What's the best way to employ this technique? Is it best to do your best to sound like a real cat? Because, that could be sexy. What about tying on a costume tail and putting on the cat nose with whiskers over my real nose? I will become irresistible because of my animal magnetism. Then I might bite his neck to really turn up the heat. Of course, I will draw blood. Sex-ay.
"Impressive." Guys love feats. They love accomplishments. They love being acknowledged for their strength, power, and, simply, their masculinity. So a well-timed observation like this one -- whether it comes after he carries a TV to the family room or figures out a way to fix the pipes without having to call the plumber -- feeds into his need to feel like the family protector.What about going 8 beers before having to go to the bathroom? What about after he lets out a particularly nice belch after bonging a beer? Coming out of the bathroom as he's zipping up? Appropriate to use "impressive"? I think so...
"I want you." Women don't need to go on about a guy's eyes or hair or clothes. That a guy really wants to hear is that he's the total package, and this acknowledgement of that -- whether it's referring to bedroom behavior or relationship stability -- is the ultimate compliment of them all.Okay, I'll give him this one. Definitely hot when done appropriately, and when I find a man that I want to say it to? Game on.
And the worst part of this article? The stepford women who commented. Take for example:
-"This is great advice for any woman. I already tell my husband these things all the time and he loves hearing it."
- "Great advice. I told my husband this everyday and he loves hearing it. My husband is the best of the best."
- "I compliment my fiancee all the time. However, I NEVER would have dreamed of mentioning his feet. I will definitely try it tonight, tho. Wish me luck!"
- "David, I totally agree with you men and woman both need to hear things said to them to help them feel important in a relationship. I used to tell my ex these all the time and even though he was lazy and an alcoholic I tried to make him feel important."
- "That is nice to read coz i have been whispering some of these words to my Man"
- "i think from a mans prosepective, that this 10 things are just the ticket a man needs at the end of the day."
- "Ladies tell your men you want them or show them! Telling him his arms look bigger is also true. -My husband is all the time making me touch his "GUNS". This is a good article."
- "I actually feel reassured. I do more than half of those suggestions on a regular basis. A couple areas I could work, though, and I will. Thanks for the tips! I'm sure my husband will be appreciative."
And I could go on. There are over 2200 comments as of 10 pm Thursday night. So we've learned that these work, ladies! Write these down on your hand, have a crib sheet, commit them to memory and you too will be happier than you've ever dreamed!
Watch out, boys. I'm on the prowl this weekend and I'm armed with some amazing one liners. You will be putty in my hands. Girls, just stay home. Or stand back and be amazed by my prowess.
You go git em! ;)
Meanwhile, some of those lines A. don't work from strangers and B. don't work at all. <--pretty much the same ones, but maybe those are just me. And I'm not gonna tell you which ones work, and which don't. ha ha ha ha have a good weekend!
I am with beakerz.... I think that article is full of shit.
While men do like compliments, they are all different and can't be summed up in a list of 10.
health.yahoo as a reliable source?!
It's hard taking an author seriously when he basically wrote a men users manual for women.
Those are awful. I'm waiting for someone to tell me I have nice feet. F'ing waiting. Sure, I keep my nails trimmed, but the moment a girl tells me I have nice feet, I'm going to counter "Honey, I play soccer 3 times a week. You're full of shit. Stop reading Yahoo! articles."
The best compliment I can get is just to have her snuggle up to me.
"you the man"? seriously? i feel like if i ever said that to a guy he would walk away immediately.
hahaha. My co-worker and I were cracking up over this, ahem...article yesterday.I wonder what would happen if you used multiples of the compliments? Meowing at your BF's feet, while stroking his arm..?? ;-)
I've been laughing about this all morning, however you commentary just made it 10 times better.
I can't wait to tell the 'new guy' I like his feet.. I can't wait to see his reaction.
Good luck on your man hunt - with ammunition like this you should set for dates for the rest of the year.
'impressive'.
You the man.
Oh. I'm STILL laughing about it.
And feet.
Hahahahaha.
Oh I just read Ryane's comment and laughed way too loudly for a cubicle.
You've made my morning Carrie.
First let me say for the record that I am not saying women shouldn't compliment men. We should. Not to keep them, but b/c it's nice. And everyone likes to feel good. But this article was just too much for me to let go without mocking.
beakerz - wait, some of them work?!?!
laundro - so I shouldn't be writing those on my hand when I go out tonight? damn...and I guess I should get that mole checked out even though Yahoo health says I'm okay.
I-66 - Now I know how I'm going to greet you the next time I see you!
ibid - Whatever, you know you want a woman to compliment your feet. Admit it!
h - I think we should try it.
ryane - hahahaaaa...I think that ensures your success 3 fold if you do that.
cravey - thank you! girl, you know I'm set. There is NO WAY I'll emerge from the bar tonight without a boyfriend. No way.
Jo - try those out on Bergle and get back to me, will ya?
You'll likely have endless opportunities to try out the "cute feet" line at the bars this weekend. CURSE YOU FLIPFLOP FAD! CURSE YOU AND THE HAIRY MAN TOES YOU RODE IN ON!
"You da man." You got to be kidding. No one has ever said that to me. From a guy I would look at him strange. From a women I would think she was bombed out of her mind. Feet!? Yeah that really gets my motor running. I think this is a book on how to make women look like idiots.
"The kids love you"? You'd better specify which kids in a hurry, otherwise you're basically calling him a pedophile.
I like the idea of saying "your arms look bigger" to someone you've never met. Follow it up with "cute feet" and your stalker cred goes right through the roof.
ROFLMAO. Well, at least it feels more applicable to find compliments then pick up lines. I'd prefer complimenting a guy on his hands than his feet, cuz, well, if the hands are nice..... but, feet? I'm certain some other feature is particularly appealing on the guy. Yeah, I have disarmed a couple men by happening to compliment them about, oh, great voice, or nice haircut. Even when I simply meant them as nice compliments to a friend. Besides, an appropriately timed, sincerely expressed "Ummmmmmm" works well, too:)
Perfect post! I'm taking notes :)
found you via indie bloggers and just wanted to give a shout-out . . . you're hilarious! kudos!
Ive seen other posts about this Yahoo piece - funny as hell!
A guy once told me that men get rejected three times before they even wake up in the morning, so any compliment or nicety is a good thing!
lol
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Compliment his package and you are his forever... Father Bob
Since when has Yahoo become Cosmo?
WOW! And all this time I thought feeding him was the way to his heart...
Please excuse me while I type up "10 ways to Compliment a woman"
#1 Tell her she keeps her mustache trimmed nicely...
You've made some really good points and made me think.
"Meow." Definitely have to put that in my arsenal. It'll probably work better than my usual staring at the guy's crotch and licking my lips.
I'm a guy and I know that when I was single I sure enjoyed the unexpected compliment. It sure made me think about the woman that made it. I've been in a relationship for 11 years and my girl gives me compliments all the time....think there's a reason we're still together?? GET A GRIP GIRLS!
I'm not sure if there's anything good about that list except for your hilarious commentary!
I don't think I could say:
"Your arms are definitely looking bigger", or "cute feet" without bursting into laughter.
I might say a variation of "You the man", or "Impressive."
The only one I'd REALLY say on that list? "I want you." That's kind of right to the point. I think a guy I was dating would appreciate me being direct and not having to try to decipher the female language.
I love your responses to his suggestions, spot on girl!
That’s a great post because it does raise an issue that most women forget.
No matter what stage you are in whether it be dating or in a relationship women actually do forget how important it is to a man to be complicated
For women they need to feel like they are being heard and for the man they need to feel like they are being appreciated.
This of course is only one of the few rules that needs to be followed in the dating game .....
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